Self-management is dependent on our self-awareness and is the second part of personal competence. It is our ability to use our awareness of our emotions to stay flexible and direct our behavior in a positive direction.
Managing our emotional reactions to situations and people can be challenging, even creating a paralyzing fear. Here it is revealed by our ability to tolerate the uncertainty as we explore emotional options. Once we can understand how we feel, the best response is given opportunity to emerge.
The largest challenge faced is managing habits over time and consistently applying skills in a wide range of circumstances. Self-control is easiest to spot and manage, yet real results come from resisting instant gratification to pursue larger, more important goals. This is where self-management gets genuinely tested for success.
Great examples of self-management are being patient and understanding during heated and emotionally charged times. Dealing with difficult situations while keeping a positive attitude. Communicating well while thinking on your feet. Clarity comes in motion so stay in motion even under pressure.
Travis Bradberry and Jean Greaves, “Emotional Intelligence 2.0